Got back from the prostitute

Well,
The deed is done. I actually would like to share *all* the sordid details, but Im sure many would not be comfy with that (for parts, even me!)

Cost $250.
Her ad (anyone wants to see it, will have to PM me) said she was 5'5". I chose her because my third (current) oneitis/chance is 5'4.5" - 5'5". Even the first one was ~5'4". Im 5'2".

But she was 5'8"-5'9". Said her ad was incorrect. I guess thats something, anyway my second oneitis(?)/chance was 5'8" (though that one is complicated and we never met etc) so thats okay.

I told her it was my first time. Then we started. I couldn't get off because Im used to doing it to myself. After trying missionary and cowgirl...no luck, I gave her a massage..tried again...still no luck. Then a handjob...no luck....continued the handjob till I came (some details omitted). All through she made fake moans and stuff and kept her eyes closed most of the time.

She lied about the time...so I shouldn't have taken off my watch. She said there were 15 minutes left at one point, but when I left a while later there were ~15 minutes left. So I stayed 40-45 mins of a 60 min session.

: Shrugs : Newbie mistakes.

How do I feel?
Calm. Its not a huge difference, but an anxiety that I usually always have in the back of my head has receded.

The big question: If I had done this when my oneitis was throwing me signals, would I have been less inhibited and done something? (And if I had would I have a GF today or would it blow over because we were both uncomfortable with the height difference etc etc?)

My thinking is I would have been less inhibited enough to at least approach and talk to her. Then the ball would be in her court to keep me interested with exaggerated signs of acceptance. Not saying it would work even then for sure, but I think I would have at least taken the first step. This is also true for years and years ago with the first one!

My life could have taken an entirely different turn.

Another thing is its made me a little philosophical about my anxieties. What do I mean? Well, I am, more or less, only attracted to white girls who are taller than me (and had probably 3 chances with them). But I can see myself going to South Asia and getting a shorter wife. The idea doesn't appeal to me at all. But what I mean is it doesn't seem all that make or break anymore. More continuum-like.

This is definitely something I will do again. (Someday... because no money!  )

Amazing post. I'd like to congratulate you for doing something you felt would really help you. Seeing as this is something I plan to do some day, I have a few questions.

Where do you live? US? Europe? Asia?

I'm guessing this was an illegal prostitute (not a legalized one). If she was an illegal one, did you feel uncomfortable doing it for fear of being caught by police?

How did you find her? By word of mouth? Cruising the internet?

How did she react when you said it was your first time? Was she more comforting? Willing to walk you through the steps?

Where did you do it? Your place? Her place? A motel? I ask because I probably wouldn't trust one entering my own house. Not to mention I live with my father.

If you don't feel comfortable answering these questions, that's fine.

I'm glad it worked out, more or less.  I'm not familiar with prices these days, but $250 seems like a lot.  If you go again, I suggest looking for a prostitute who is from outside the femisphere to see the difference (latin or asian, and shouldn't speak English well).  The big difference is how they treat you, and this makes a big difference for sex.  (This should also cost a lot less.)  This may change your mind about the importance of racial looks.

You should read this thread on the nice-guy forum about another guy's first time that was much worse than yours.

drealm wrote

1)Where do you live? US? Europe? Asia?

Canada.

drealm wrote

2)I'm guessing this was an illegal prostitute (not a legalized one). If she was an illegal one, did you feel uncomfortable doing it for fear of being caught by police?

Prostitution is legal in Canada. Everything surrounding it is illegal. The old "its legal to lay down a water pipe, but illegal to dig a hole". For instance with street hookers, they get into the car before discussing anything - because that is private domain.

drealm wrote

3)How did you find her? By word of mouth? Cruising the internet?

There is a website called terb.ca, where they review prostitutes/escorts etc. That and the internet.

drealm wrote

4)How did she react when you said it was your first time? Was she more comforting? Willing to walk you through the steps?

Not really. Same bland polite attitude.

drealm wrote

5)Where did you do it? Your place? Her place? A motel? I ask because I probably wouldn't trust one entering my own house. Not to mention I live with my father.

A hotel. Nice one actually. I called the escort agency 3 hours before the rendezvous (there was actually a delay and had to postpone it for an hour). Then when I got to the hotel lobby, I called the agency again to get the room number.

I think (assuming you had the cash/time for it etc), after you have met her in a hotel, the next one (or one after that etc if you choose the same girl) you could do in the house. There are some reports where she and the john watch a movie together before getting down to the deed (though this could happen in a hotel too). Ofc, I don't know - seeing that it was my first time - I didn't question her in the hotel room about when the clock starts ticking etc.

The thing is to get the girl from an escort agency - she will usually have a reputation and future business to protect - so more trustable than say, craigslist.

Personally, I would prefer a hotel. More exciting to be in a new location etc.

Today in Uni, it seems my oneitis has gotten worse. Though it might have helped (or been neutral) if my oneitis was still throwing signals at me.

fschmidt wrote

I'm not familiar with prices these days, but $250 seems like a lot.

Craigslist is $200. Low end $180. Of course I do not know if this is negotiable. There are some older women cheaper, maybe <$150...not my bag.

fschmidt wrote

...This may change your mind about the importance of racial looks.

Though I may try it when I get the cash... the above sounds like a zero chance to me.

Im just thinking now that if this is to have any effect at all, it has to be done fairly regularly (at least once a month?).
That might give me a different view of the world. Pity I cant.

And double pity that during the years it is most sorely needed (younger years) it is the most unaffordable.

I agree with this.  Prostitution should be priced so that it is easily affordable to young men weekly.  This would solve a lot of problems.