That you've had enough of biker tattoos, middle fingers in the air, and angry obese cat-ladies is no surprise. Me, too, believe me. That said, might I offer a constructive counterpoint?
It seems like you are very much caught up in finding someone who is "submissive", to the point of being docile like a child or pet. If I misunderstand, then, I apologize sincerely. However, if I'm not too far off the mark, I have to say that this attitude toward women is just the opposite side of the radfems' coin. It's not balanced.
If you take a more moderate approach to women, respecting their intelligence and human dignity, yet remain determined to land one whose goals are family-related, you'll be much more likely to find a loving and faithful wife who isn't insane. One with a religious, spiritual or ethnic life could be a real plus for an old-school suitor.
Those hyper-submissive types are mostly a myth; and the ones who are like that, are so because of psychiatric problems, bad upbringings and the like. Aim for one who respects you as an equal and wants to be by your side, not shrinking behind you.
The wilting violets are not much healthier inside than the Critical Studies grads with green mohawks are. Moderate people with healthy self-respect levels are the way to go.