greatgarrett2 here. Some might know me from the LS forums, others may not.
Just thought I'd introduce myself formally.
In the past, I've made attempts at courtship but failed. They weren't interested so I had to leave it at that.
This happened about five or six times.
Growing up, I had a very over-protective mother and a rebellious sister. Had to hear them arguing on an almost everyday basis. No one in my family really prepared me for the perils of modern dating and hearing and seeing conflict between my mother and sister, I admit, has warped my view of women and I'm ill at ease with courtship and cold approaches. I wasn't allowed to 'explore' on my own. Sex and intimacy talks were almost non-existent. I have approached in the past, but only after I've gotten to know the girl. We were 'friends' first....the dreaded 'friendzone'.
I've been a regular poster on the LS forums and set up an account on wrongplanet.net. I was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome at age 21. I have one question along with my intro. Say, if a man like me did find a non-Western wife, would it matter if I had Asperger's or would some of the 'aspie' traits be seen as a positive? (quiet, polite, hard-working,etc.) Reason I'm asking is I read somewhere that in non-feminist countries, diagnoses of Asperger's, ADHD and the like are almost non-existent, if at all. It's not seen as a weakness or an illness that needs to be corrected in those places, as in this society. Granted, I have my faults, we all do, but generally I'm just wondering.
I'm at a stage in my life where I'm looking to improve my financial situation, but as a 32 year old 'aspie', it's rather difficult since my prospects are somewhat low. I possibly want to go the 'work at home' route and bit by bit drop out of mainstream society as it doesn't serve me. The only people who generally benefit from this culture are women and players.
I can't give you a straight answer to your Asperger's question because I honestly don't believe Asperger's is a mental illness. To me, it is just a label stuck on people who don't fit into a promiscuous culture. Being quiet, polite, hard-working, etc. are negative traits in the femisphere and positive traits outside the femisphere.
Why are your financial prospects low? What do you do for work?
Just as I thought....those traits are looked down upon in the femisphere but may be assets elsewhere. The rules were different even in my grandparents generation....different (some say, more honorable) traits attracted mates. No more. I often get on better with old(er) people.
Right now I work full time stocking shelves in an auto parts store. Always looking for something more though to better myself. Something above min wage at the moment. I currently have a few blogs and websites I'm working on, getting off the ground. In the very near future I plan to format and upload a book I wrote to Amazon Kindle. I live in a depressed area and interviews were never my strong point. This present job a 'job coach' was employed to basically do the interview process for me and negotiate terms with the employer. This job was also arranged and was a means to an end. Now, I'm going the online route. I know there has to be money made online, people do it all the time. And, computers are where my natural interests lie.
Don't mean to sound like a bitch but right now I make just enough to get by.
On a philosophical bent, a little off topic, do you believe we choose, or are we chosen? We all have Free Will, don't we? I've often wondered this in my failures both in the romantic and professional arenas.
Welcome garrett. By do we chose or are we chosen, I assume you mean romantically. A good essay "Sexual Utopia In Power", perhaps which you've read says "men display women choose". Of course outside the femisphere good men don't need to display as much to attract women to choose them.
I asked that because I am reminded of a conversation I had with my father not too long ago. We were talking about careers, how we land jobs, cliques and society in general. He said, 'You don't chose. You are chosen.' Perhaps he was talking about us men in general, I don't know. But, you're right, women ultimately do the 'choosing'.
For jobs I don't agree. Most job searching is about being in the right place at the right time. Almost every single job I've gotten was from knowing someone, so innate talent mattered very little
As far was whether a job fits you or not - I think that's a bad mentality. You should just choose the best relative job at any given time. If the job fits you great - if it doesn't it's still an effective way of moving forward. Too many people choose to be unemployed until they find their dream job. But in reality I think locating your dream job (if there is such a thing) can only come through experience. More importantly incremental experience by first going through several jobs you don't like.
I take the assumption when evaluating jobs that I'll be equally bad at all of them and I'll also equally dislike all of them - this makes my approach easy. Because all I need to do is evaluate payout. I chose the job before my previous job solely because it ranked higher in pay when I put all the craigslist info into a spreadsheet.